Valid Excuses For Not Being Happy Now

There aren't any.

One of the happiest times of my life almost didn’t happen for two reasons. I didn’t like going out at night and didn’t want to miss the rerun of my favorite show at the time—Perry Mason.

Go ahead and laugh, but seriously, those were my reasons.

I had to force myself past these two issues to do something I knew would take up every extra minute of my life.

I did it anyway.

I started a dance company while attending college full-time, raising children, and working at least one part-time job to support my family.

Those excuses would have been better than not wanting to go out at night and missing Perry Mason. Still, my human sense of myself tried to stop me from experiencing full happiness because I wanted the comfort of staying home.

The result of choosing what looked so hard to do was a time that everyone involved still recalls as a brilliantly happy experience, full of priceless memories.

I could have missed all of it because I didn’t like going out at night, and Perry Mason was on the TV.

We all have reasons for not choosing to do what makes us happy.

A woman I was coaching explained herself by saying, “I guess I am delaying my happiness.”

Don’t we all delay our happiness, at least sometimes?

Why we do this isn’t important. We could take lots of time, drill down into our human situation, and find perfectly acceptable reasons for delaying or never accepting happiness within and in our lives.

However, why waste time explaining why we aren’t happy when knowing why we aren't happy is unnecessary to being happy?

In fact, this is often another excuse for delaying happiness.

Instead, let’s move to happiness by stepping out of the human questions of why and why not.

Let’s go instead to where happiness is a quality that always exists and can never be replaced by sorrow.

Which is where? Certainly, it is not found in the human duality point of view.

It is not found within the excuses of not being good enough, it’s not the right time, feeling guilty, it will be too hard, feeling superior, feeling old, useless, wrong sex, wrong height, weight, intelligence, skill, etc.

No, we can not find happiness by beginning with our worldview.

But we can choose to be willing to be happy here and now.

We can choose to see that the force of life, the substance of all beings, is the infinite intelligence of Love, Loving Itself, and that is happiness.

From that point of view, happiness is not something that must be attained, but something that is always present.

We can see the truth of this everywhere: a baby’s laugh, a bird song, a tree in the breeze, a flower blooming. These are the symbols, the signs, and the proof of Love as the only cause and creator.

We will see and experience more of these outward expressions only as we begin with the truth of being and stay there.

Then, what we experience will become more and more like the essence of Love and happiness.

Not because we are creating it or making it happen, but because we are lifting the veil from our eyes, or more accurately, our perception.

The mist dissolves, revealing Life living Itself.

Happiness cannot be stopped from being the essence of our lives by the seemingly logical reasons the dualist worldview gives when we see them for what they are—lies.

We can never change an outward appearance by remaining unhappy, but choosing inward happiness will shift what appears without in ways far beyond any human explanation.

We can choose to be happy now, even when surrounded by people who are not happy and have good reasons why they aren’t.

If we want to help them, we must step out of that story and light the way for them by revealing happiness in and as our life now.

Happiness is free and available to everyone now, and it doesn’t take years, months, days, or even hours to experience it.

When we stand in Truth, the Truth will set us free.