What Matters Enough To You
To give up something else?
How much do you care about yourself so that you will do what you want to do?
What are you avoiding doing because it might make someone else unhappy?
No one is immune to the increasingly complex lists of things that must be done.
Everyone worries about making others happy.
But, and this is a huge but, we all have the ability to make conscious choices about how we want to spend our lives.
What began years ago as "Writing Wednesday" has evolved into a daily writing practice that has transformed my life.
Back then, I carved out a few special hours each week to write.
Now, I've claimed the early morning hours—that precious time before the world fully wakes—as my sacred writing space.
It's not that I wasn't writing before.
I've always written in some capacity. But I wanted to keep the promise to myself to finish my projects, to honor the creative impulse that refused to be silenced.
To do so, I have at least an hour less time in the day to do the other things that are important to me. But, I decided writing was what I cared about most, other than my family, so other things had to fit around this time.
Once I opened the door to allowing myself to write consistently every morning, I discovered something remarkable—the resistance I used to feel diminished. The habit became sacred.
What started as a struggle became a daily ritual I look forward to.
In our digital age of constant distraction, these morning hours have become even more precious.
There are no notifications, emails, or social media—just the blank page and my thoughts.
I've learned that what we protect flourishes.
Sometimes, I still think, 'I can't do it today; I'll skip just this once.' There is always work to be done, messages to answer, and a world demanding attention through screens and obligations.
As much as I care about my writing, and as much work as it took to carve out those morning hours from doing anything else, resistance will still rise up and try to stop me.
On those mornings when I have trouble getting started, I ask myself if I care enough about writing, my projects, and the promises I have made to write even when I don't want to.
And when I push through, when the words accumulate, when ideas flow that wouldn't have existed otherwise, I know the answer is yes.
There is always a way to find the time, no matter how brief, to do what we feel called to do or love to do.
And everyone has a different idea of what that will be.
This is not about becoming famous or doing something others might call important.
This is about expressing our essence because that is what we are here to do.
Imagine anything in nature deciding not to be itself.
We, as humans, have the choice not to bloom in our lives.
We have the free will to choose not to be free. But, do you imagine that is what our creator hoped we would choose?
Write, sing, garden, craft, build, dance, and design because it is what you do.
Who cares if someone else sees or likes it?
A single flower blooming where no one notices is equally as important and beautiful as the one blooming in a famous garden.
Even when we are doing chores, working a job, or cleaning the house, we can choose to find a way to make it ours, and in making it ours, we enjoy it.
Life will shine through us, and what could be better than that feeling?
In this hyperconnected world where attention is the most precious commodity, choosing to focus on what matters to you is not just a personal choice—it's a radical act of self-possession.
Every time you set a boundary around your creative time, you're declaring what you value.
In my journey from occasional writing to daily practice, I've discovered that consistency transforms possibility into reality.
What seemed impossible with sporadic effort becomes inevitable with daily attention.
Go ahead. Choose it.
What will you make time for today?
What matters enough to you that you'll rearrange your life around it?
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