Yearning For Response Answered
But its not where you are looking.
When the weather turns colder, we move some bird feeders from the open deck to the covered porch.
Then we wait.
It doesn’t take long.
First, the chickadees find it, then the woodpeckers, and within a very short time, we have a multitude of responses to what we have done.
It is rewarding in so many ways. We can see the result of our choice and receive pleasure from the response.
Receiving responses seems so much more challenging in the “human” world.
We all yearn for a response, and sometimes we have all felt the sting, or loneliness, of no response or the wrong one.
We all have sent emails, letters, notes, and questions to others and then waited for a response that never came or arrived weeks later, long after the need had passed.
It’s a chronic sign of the times.
For many people, the world and its inhabitants don’t respond the way they are used to. People used to visit their neighbors. We used to check on friends and family. We used to write letters, not emails.
Information flows so fast and heavy today that not responding is perhaps an understandable defense.
However, the feelings of not being heard, needed, or valued can intensify for those waiting for a response and not getting one.
It’s a sad circle.
Because sometimes, when we are lost in those feelings, we don’t want to respond either. Often, we stop reaching out because we think, “What’s the use? It doesn’t mean anything anyway.”
Isn’t everyone simply looking for validation? Even if sometimes the way we seek it is not the wisest or the safest.
Everyone wants the awareness and feeling of being valuable, unique, honored, and cherished.
Since this is true, responding becomes crucial because the lack of response can eventually drive us elsewhere to fulfill the need for validation.
However, if we believe we need a human response, then elsewhere is not always the best place to go.
The answer is two-fold.
First, we can learn to be better responders to others and ourselves.
This is always a loving thing to do.
The other answer raises us above the need for the human need for validation.
It is to become aware of the constant response that, although often missed, is always going on.
This response is permanent, pure, and constant, present now. Sometimes, we forget this is happening. Often, it is because we are not trained to notice it.
Everything is a response to our needs.
The air, the clouds, what we read, what we eat, and how we move, travel, or pause are responses to the presence of our being.
Instead of looking for a few humans to make us feel valuable and loved, we can look at the universe, which supplies us directly and uniquely for every need.
This awareness places us securely and permanently in the experience of the consistent validation of our true value.
It’s our choice of perception that determines our experience.
If our perceptions need a human response, we will eventually be disappointed.
Remaining disappointed only blinds us more to the universe’s constant loving response to our being.
Changing our perceptions into the Infinite brings into view the abundance provided for us at all times.
As I was driving the highway lined with beautiful fall colors, I saw the universe expanding before me, providing and increasing in abundance, as is its nature.
Just hours before, my entire focus had been on one tiny incident around someone who had not provided what I perceived would meet my needs.
As I drove, I stopped needing a person to respond.
Instead, I felt the opened vista of infinite provision and supply for all beings.
Move perception away from the tiny dot of worry that obscures the view of a consistent, abundant response.
Witness the immense expanse of the universe’s provision and feel the difference, both for yourself and everyone else yearning for a response.
Notice that the response came before the need. We only have to be open to seeing it.
"Everything is a response to our needs." Including this, for me, very timely post!