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Quinn Columba Boyko| LadyQuinn's avatar

I too have lived long enough that everything I ever judged anyone for happened to me. “People who change their name are such flakes!” “Why is she letting her child have a meltdown in the grocery store?” “If she was a better wife he wouldn’t have cheated.” I’m embarassed for the me that ever thought such things!

Also leaning into explore the quantum realm - to be OUTSIDE the box seems like the only reasonable place to live.

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Beca Lewis's avatar

I know exactly what you mean, Quinn. At least we notice!

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Jara Dekker's avatar

"We reveal the boxes we live in whenever we judge others for not occupying the same box we do." - That landed!

Thank you for sharing, this was beautiful.

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Beca Lewis's avatar

Thank you, Jara!

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Robin Price's avatar

“Never say never” is an age-old adage for a reason! I have found myself in very similar situations many times. Thanks for sharing!

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Beca Lewis's avatar

We just keep moving forward, right? Thanks, Robin!

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Deborah Williams's avatar

You caught me, Beca. Actually I already knew this but you brought it back to my attention…….Don’t judge the judgers. It’s a trap and to be released from it is to open a whole new world of possibility.❤️❤️

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Beca Lewis's avatar

I love that it's a whole new world of possibility! Can't wait to hear where you go with it!

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Deborah Williams's avatar

haha, me too!

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Victoria Fann's avatar

Thank you for this, Beca. I'm in exactly this place of examining my own boxes, and kind of surprised to discover how attached I am to those boxes in spite of how much they've limited me. And also, how much I have defended and protected those boxes, unaware that they were limiting me, restricting me and keeping the very things I've been wanting to attract into my life at a distance because of my "nevers" and "always". This construct is commonly called our comfort zone because we believe it keeps is safe and cozy, but it's also devoid of potential and creativity and inspiration. It keeps us small, when on a soul level we truly thrive when we're open and receptive to new experiences and ways of seeing and doing things. Your post was timely because it reinforces what's been bubbling to the surface of my awareness recently, and I finally feel as if I have clarity about why I've felt so "boxed in". I'm looking forward to the freedom as I break down and flatten these boxes so that I'm free to fly!

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Beca Lewis's avatar

I love this, Victoria. I know what you mean. I am always surprised at how many boxes I live in when I think I don't. It's a constant awareness, isn't it? At least we are willing to look—and leave! That's what counts, I think.

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